I want to talk about one of the problems that I see in the area of self-motivation or hustle. In the first part, I just want to talk little bit about the quandary of motivation; the difficulties people have who have much more opportunity than what you might have. If it is difficult for them, how much more difficult it might be for you. In the end, I am going to give you four points tell keep yourself relatively motivated.
I often look, study, and see: How do people motivate themselves, how do you learn, how do you succeed, how do you make progress?
Recently with a whole bunch of events that I’ve seen on TV, etc., related to the sports world, as well as other people, comes with an interesting question. If people who already have great promise for success, that it’s even guaranteed, they already have the success, they already have the millions – if they can’t motivate themselves to just follow the rules or be good to collect the money, how are you going to get somebody who’s not guaranteed, who’s starting out and saying: “Gee, I wonder if I can become a millionaire, a multimillionaire and make all that money. How will I have whatever I decide as success”? How do you motivate those people if you can’t motivate the people who already have the guarantee? They are different people. They are different situations, different people. You have to have, already built into your DNA, those motivational factors, those factors of life that say: “This is what I should do, this is what’s right, this is what’s wrong.”
Recently, take a look, the most prominent example, of course, is Johnny Manziel. He had a life that was guaranteed to be wonderful for him. Now, maybe because his parents are well off or something, he doesn’t think he’ll ever have to worry about that. Whatever it is that’s going on, whatever that constant decision to make himself look bad on everything from TV, to selfies, the constant ongoing mistakes that he seems to make. But he’s not the only one; there’s lots of them. There’s been lots of people in the football world or other sports world, where they have done things that are just ruining their career.
Just the other day we had the NFL draft, a few days ago, and during that draft, here was this video that pops up, and this guy lost somewhere between 7 and 12 million dollars because that video showed him smoking from a bong with a gasmask on. It’s not just those in those situations. There was somebody who was guaranteed a ton of money, and he knew it, even though that was a couple years old, he knew it well back then because he was that much of a star player; expected to be the top draft pick, other than a quarterback.
Let me go a little bit adrift, then, from just football players or other sports figures. I use those as an example, because these people are guaranteed a great income that’s going to be provided for them, or they’re already under contract and they screw up. What happens to the person who’s trying to work their way up, going to college or other things? Take a look at some things. It turns out 30% of people being interviewed lose the interview not because of what goes on in the interview, but because then when the research is done on Facebook or some other social media, they don’t want that person or that person of character coming into the office. In discussion with some younger people, I’ve had them say things like: “Well, that’s not anybody else’s business, or that’s self-expression,” etc. Fine, it’s self-expression, but somebody who was going to give you a job just found out things about you that they feel uncomfortable with, bringing you in, having you go out, and be “their employee.” How do you stop that kind of behavior besides just giving knowledge and information? How does somebody motivate themselves, or just to follow certain guidelines of their own as when they represent or put themselves out? Everything you do in social media today or out in public, which may be recorded, in a sense, may be something that will have a positive or negative influence on your future.
A lot of people say: “Everybody makes mistakes. Shouldn’t we just forgive?” That’s an interesting thought. Let’s look at it from the employer standpoint for a second. It’s one thing, they turn around, take a look at it, and it’s very well-exposed when you talk about professional athletes, because you take a look at them and you see that many of these people tend to then repeat, and do the same things over and over again. So they are at least risky to start paying millions of dollars to and have under contract. “What do they do to the team?” etc. Those are all publicly displayed, and they’re kind of interesting. It is a good microcosm, in a sense of the rest of society.
When you’re an employer, you’re looking at somebody and you’re saying: “Do I want to take the chance?” You buy insurance because you might have an accident, so that accident means that you have to have something in case something happens. For your car, for your house, etc., you buy insurance. For your life, you buy insurance so that if something happens to you, you’re able to cover the loss, cover the problems. What happens with hiring an employee? You don’t really have an insurance policy, but you have to make sure that there’s a very low risk, just like there’s a low risk of a fire or an accident for your car, or somebody dying. You have to make sure that you have a greater degree of risk taken out of the equation when you hire an employee. You don’t want to hire somebody that you have questions about certain things that may affect their job or may affect how they show up in the morning, if they show up in the morning. All of those things end up being decision factors for an employer.
Really, it gets back to how an individual motivates themselves or how we motivate, and basically inform individuals to behave certain ways. Interestingly, I have found this in a variety of different ways just recently. There was a video that was put out, an interview between Gary Vaynerchuk and Daymond John, and they were talking about their kids, and: How do they get their kids motivated? Because they’ve been so successful, those kids are born already into something that’s going to be a great deal of wealth, so how do they do that? The same thing with others and how we do it ourselves.
You have to take a look at what right now is getting a great deal of controversial comments about: Millennials. I’ve said it myself: What happens with the Millennials, and what’s going on? There was an interesting thing I saw just this morning. Watermark Community Church put out a video in jest, etc., joking around about Millennials, not leaving home, and all kinds of other things. Very nice song routine. The comments there were all about things like the Millennials feeling insulted, and many cases, some of them agreeing, some saying they were an exception, etc. The key point was missed: Who raised the Millennials? Who didn’t parent them in the way that would not turn them out the way that they’re being criticized? It wasn’t their responsibility when they were 8, 10, 12, 14, 16, 18, when they weren’t taught certain things or held accountable – those were parent problems, not children problems. Now they’re adults, so that’s a different story, and they have to sort of be hit with the cold water in the face to understand: “Wait a minute, this isn’t going to work. I’m going to have to do something a different way.”
How do you motivate that? Some of it I’ve discussed in earlier episodes. Episode number 24 where we talked about how you ensure success. That would be a good episode to come back for, and see how you paint your own picture for success. When you paint your own picture, why do you want to leave and how do you motivate yourself from leaving from your current situation to something that you would desire more?
Now here, let me give you what I consider for key factors to keep yourself motivated. You are going to have tough times, low times and mainly fighting against stress. These are not in any order, not in any order of priority. Just take them all and use them.
First motivational, keep yourself surrounded by motivational things and read those motivational quotes, things that are inspirational and make you feel like you want to do something.
Second, when you get up in the morning and are languishing around, turn on some upbeat music. By that I mean, nothing depressing but rather things that will want to make you play. Think of ideas like it football games or sporting events the kind of music that pumps up the crowd. Think of conferences the kind of music they play before it starts like ‘Jump,’ etc.
Number three, exercise regularly. Now, three days a week, non-consecutively, such as Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday or Monday, Wednesday, Friday. You may have to start slowly and it may take several weeks before you can really push yourself. You really want to put in an effort into this exercise not just sitting on a bike reading a magazine.
Now, last number four and probably most important, stay away from negative people. Find positive people, get that positive people into your life and get rid of the negative people. Now, one of the things you do for this because you know the person and you’ve probably been around in a long time, have a half dozen excuses in your pocket, so to speak, so that wherever you are if you feel like you have to you can leave. So you are ready to say, for example, I have to stop by the store to pick up something for ‘whatever.’ It doesn’t matter, just do it.
Thank you and good luck!`